Mental Health Tips for Repeat Miscarriages – Featured in Parents Magazine
Repeat miscarriage is an experience that can feel emotionally and physically devastating. In a recent Parents Magazine article, I shared some of the mental health tools I use in my work to support those navigating the deep grief that comes with pregnancy loss.
As a therapist who specializes in reproductive and perinatal mental health, I’ve worked with many people facing back-to-back loss—and I know how isolating and overwhelming it can be. The emotional fallout isn’t just grief; it’s often fear, anger, shame, and a loss of trust in your own body.
Coping with the Emotional Impact of Repeat Miscarriage
This kind of pain can completely shift your sense of identity. You might feel unrecognizable to yourself—checked out, isolated, or even betrayed by your body. And grief isn’t neat or predictable. It may show up as numbness one moment, and physical anguish the next. One day you might find something makes you laugh, and that laughter might bring guilt. It’s all normal.
In moments when the pain feels unbearable, grounding tools can help. A photo, a short note to yourself, a mantra, or a song that reminds you that this will pass can create a lifeline.
Key Takeaways from My Parents Magazine Feature
Back-to-back miscarriages can change your sense of self. The emotional fallout can include shock, isolation, loss of identity, and distrust in one’s body.
Grief isn’t linear. It may show up as physical pain, numbness, sudden laughter followed by guilt, or overwhelming sadness. All of it is valid.
Grounding strategies are essential. Whether it’s a mantra, a photo, or a personal note, having something tangible to hold onto in moments of despair can help.
You deserve comprehensive support. Find a therapist trained in reproductive grief or join a support group. Being alone may feel like the safest option, but meaningful connection is often key to healing.
Medical gaslighting is real—and you’re allowed to advocate for yourself. It’s okay to ask for additional testing or referrals even if you haven’t met arbitrary “criteria.”
Partner dynamics often shift. Differences in how grief is expressed can strain relationships. Communication and mutual acknowledgment are vital.
You don’t have to find meaning right now. It’s okay if the experience just feels cruel and unfair. Healing doesn’t require a silver lining—it requires time and space.
What I Wish More People Knew About This Kind of Grief
Not everything I shared made it into the article, but I want to say this here: This type of pain can feel unlike anything else. You may be in a place where you don’t recognize yourself or feel like the world has gone quiet. That doesn’t mean you’re broken—it means you’re grieving something real, and deeply painful.
This type of pain can feel unlike anything else. That doesn’t mean you’re broken—it means you’re grieving something real, and deeply painful.
You don’t need to be “strong.” You don’t need to have answers. You just need space to hurt, and eventually, to heal.
You may be in a place where you don’t recognize yourself or feel like the world has gone quiet.
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If you’re grieving a pregnancy loss, you’re not alone—and you don’t have to go through this in silence.
