the sheer amount of work that comes with caring for a new baby can completely upend your relationship, shoving both of you straight into survival mode. Those visions of relaxing date nights or cozy evenings together? Not happening.

What becomes even more disturbing is it’s usually not just an internal feeling, but accompanied by behavior such as yelling, throwing something, crying uncontrollably, feeling physically weak, or even something as severe as physical violence toward another person or yourself.